The other day I met a nice lady at Brooklan's volleyball camp. We were having a good conversation and after a couple minutes she said 'so you just have the 2 girls?' My heart immediately thought NO, but out of my mouth I said 'yes.' The lady was super nice and I enjoyed our conversation, however immediately after we visited, my heart was broken. Ever since we were pregnant with baby #3, I hoped for another girl, as it would be the fourth generation of three girls on my mom's side of the family. And it didn't help that the kind lady I was visiting with had three girls of her own. This is something I'm going to need to get over. I know we have 3 girls and Avelyn knows I know this, but when meeting a new person it would be awkward for me to bring this up.--I don't want to make the other person feel bad or make the situation awkward for either of us. As we continue to come up with more ideas with our motto to 'Let Your Light Shine,' maybe I do share our baby girl's story. This is something I need to pray about. After I visited with this lady, I just wanted to go up to her and say 'No, we have THREE girls,' but for now I need to have peace about all this.
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I, too, struggle with this question from people. My answer generally depends on the situation. I haven't been asked lately, but have decided to say that we have Addison and that she has a big brother in heaven. You never know who you might help with your story (and to also share your faith). At first I thought I'd make people feel bad, but what they don't realize is that I think about him every day so it's not like they're bringing up something I'm not already thinking about. I hope that makes sense. I continue to pray for you guys and love you all. (G.W.)
How about "we have two here with us and one in heaven." You may be amazed at how many other people are aching
to acknowledge a child they cannot hold in their arms. (T & T)